Why Mindset Matters
Eslana Lower is an author, speaker, resilience mindset coach, nurse, midwife and mother of 4 who is also navigating life following the tragic loss of her teenage daughter Rylee to suicide because of bullying.
Why Mindset Matters is the podcast that explores how resilience, gratitude, and intentional thinking can transform even the most challenging seasons of life. Each episode offers raw conversations, empowering tools, and real-life stories to help you shift your perspective and reclaim your power.
This podcast is for you if you’ve ever asked yourself…
- How do I survive the heartbreak of a breakup or betrayal?
- How do I keep going after the death of someone I love?
- Is it possible to live and grieve at the same time?
- Will I ever feel happiness again after so much loss?
- How can I begin to heal when everything feels broken?
- What can I do to strengthen my mental and emotional wellbeing?
- How do I build resilience for the inevitable challenges life brings?
- What does happiness really mean—and how do I find it for myself?
- How do I create a life that feels meaningful and aligned?
- Can I truly manifest the life, love, and peace I long for?
- How do I call in the kind of relationship I truly deserve?
- What steps can I take to live the life I know I’m meant for?
Trigger Warning: This podcast contains discussions about suicide and may include occasional strong language. Listener discretion is advised, especially for those who may find these topics distressing.
Why Mindset Matters
Why Comparison Is The Thief of Joy
Episode 11: Why Comparison Is the Thief of Joy
In this episode of Why Mindset Matters, we’re digging into something that silently creeps in and chips away at our peace and our capacity for joy: comparison. It’s the quiet voice that says you should be further along, you shouldn’t still be feeling this way, or someone else has it worse, so what’s your excuse? I know that voice intimately and I know how damaging it can be when we start measuring our grief, healing, or worth against someone else’s highlight reel.
This isn’t just about social media comparison though — it’s about the deep, internal pressure to perform our pain or prove its validity.
I’m unpacking the quiet heartbreak that happens when we compare our healing, our grief, or even our joy to someone else’s. The truth is, comparison doesn’t just rob us of joy; it robs us of presence, peace, and self-compassion.
I talk about what it looks like to fully honour your own path, without apology.
In this conversation, I’m inviting you back to yourself. We talk about why your timeline is sacred, why your emotions are valid, and why choosing self-compassion is the bravest thing you can do. This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt like their pain wasn’t valid enough, their progress too slow, or their joy somehow undeserved. I’ll share how I learned to let go of the pressure to measure up, how gratitude became my anchor, and why your story — just as it is — is 100% valid.
