Why Mindset Matters
Eslana Lower is an author, speaker, resilience mindset coach, nurse, midwife and mother of 4 who is also navigating life following the tragic loss of her teenage daughter Rylee to suicide because of bullying.
Why Mindset Matters is the podcast that explores how resilience, gratitude, and intentional thinking can transform even the most challenging seasons of life. Each episode offers raw conversations, empowering tools, and real-life stories to help you shift your perspective and reclaim your power.
This podcast is for you if you’ve ever asked yourself…
- How do I survive the heartbreak of a breakup or betrayal?
- How do I keep going after the death of someone I love?
- Is it possible to live and grieve at the same time?
- Will I ever feel happiness again after so much loss?
- How can I begin to heal when everything feels broken?
- What can I do to strengthen my mental and emotional wellbeing?
- How do I build resilience for the inevitable challenges life brings?
- What does happiness really mean—and how do I find it for myself?
- How do I create a life that feels meaningful and aligned?
- Can I truly manifest the life, love, and peace I long for?
- How do I call in the kind of relationship I truly deserve?
- What steps can I take to live the life I know I’m meant for?
Trigger Warning: This podcast contains discussions about suicide and may include occasional strong language. Listener discretion is advised, especially for those who may find these topics distressing.
Why Mindset Matters
Redefining Happiness
Episode 13: Redefining Happiness
In this episode of Why Mindset Matters, I explore how my definition of happiness has radically shifted since losing my daughter, Rylee. For a long time, I thought happiness was supposed to be loud, obvious, and permanent — but grief cracked that illusion wide open.
Now, I see happiness as something softer, more sacred — moments of peace, presence, and gratitude woven into the messiness of real life.
I share how I learned to hold both joy and sorrow without apology, and how I’ve made space for meaning, even when life doesn’t feel light. This is a raw and honest conversation about emotional duality — the kind that lets joy and pain coexist. It’s about breaking up with performative positivity and giving yourself full permission to define happiness in a way that actually fits who you are now, not who you used to be.
Ultimately, I invite you to rethink what happiness really means — not as a constant feeling, but as a personal perspective — and to realize just how much your mindset can and does shape the way you experience life, even in the midst of grief.
