Why Mindset Matters
Eslana Lower is an author, speaker, resilience mindset coach, nurse, midwife and mother of 4 who is also navigating life following the tragic loss of her teenage daughter Rylee to suicide because of bullying.
Why Mindset Matters is the podcast that explores how resilience, gratitude, and intentional thinking can transform even the most challenging seasons of life. Each episode offers raw conversations, empowering tools, and real-life stories to help you shift your perspective and reclaim your power.
This podcast is for you if you’ve ever asked yourself…
- How do I survive the heartbreak of a breakup or betrayal?
- How do I keep going after the death of someone I love?
- Is it possible to live and grieve at the same time?
- Will I ever feel happiness again after so much loss?
- How can I begin to heal when everything feels broken?
- What can I do to strengthen my mental and emotional wellbeing?
- How do I build resilience for the inevitable challenges life brings?
- What does happiness really mean—and how do I find it for myself?
- How do I create a life that feels meaningful and aligned?
- Can I truly manifest the life, love, and peace I long for?
- How do I call in the kind of relationship I truly deserve?
- What steps can I take to live the life I know I’m meant for?
Trigger Warning: This podcast contains discussions about suicide and may include occasional strong language. Listener discretion is advised, especially for those who may find these topics distressing.
Why Mindset Matters
Why “It’s Okay to Not Be Okay” Isn’t the Whole Truth
Episode 15: Why “It’s Okay to Not Be Okay” Isn’t the Whole Truth
In this episode, I dive into the complexities of grief and the widely accepted phrase, “It’s okay to not be okay.” And while I understand the intention behind it, I’m challenging that narrative — because I don’t actually believe we’ve mastered what it truly means. When someone says they’re not okay, the instinct — whether from others or ourselves — is often to fix, to soothe, to make it go away. But if we’re trying to fix it... are we really saying it’s okay?
I share what this looks like in my own life since losing my daughter, and how I’ve learned to hold space for emotional pain without rushing to rescue myself from it. This is an honest conversation about vulnerability, discomfort, and what it means to create a culture where we allow each other — and ourselves — to feel fully.
This episode is an invitation to go deeper. To stop using band-aids for what needs holding. To understand that compassion isn't about fixing — it's about being with. I’ll talk about the power of witnessing pain, the gift of emotional honesty, and why it's time we stopped performing resilience and started practicing it — even when it’s messy. Because life is messy... but it's within the mess that we find the beauty.
I discuss the distinction between supporting and saving, and why self-compassion and authentic connection are more important than mere platitudes. If you’ve ever felt pressure to hide your hurt or minimise your mess, if you’ve ever felt unseen in your struggles or struggled to support someone else in theirs, this episode is for you.
