Why Mindset Matters
About the Host
Eslana Lower is an author, speaker, resilience mindset coach, nurse, midwife, and mother of four. Through her own lived experience of profound grief, trauma, and healing following the loss of her daughter, Rylee, Eslana has developed a powerful voice and framework for helping others navigate life’s most difficult seasons with greater resilience, intention, and hope.
She is the creator of The GRACE Method and author of Resilience After Great Loss: Learning to Live and Grieve Simultaneously—work rooted in the belief that while grief may change us, it does not have to define us.
About the Podcast
Why Mindset Matters is a podcast for anyone navigating grief, loss, trauma, life transitions, or simply seeking to live with greater awareness, purpose, and emotional resilience.
Across two powerful seasons, Eslana has shared raw reflections, honest conversations, practical tools, and mindset shifts designed to help listeners reclaim their story, strengthen their inner world, and learn how to live and grieve simultaneously.
This podcast explores the intersection of resilience, gratitude, intentional living, healing, personal growth, and emotional wellbeing—offering compassionate guidance for those ready to stop simply surviving and start consciously participating in their own healing and transformation.
This podcast is for you if you’ve ever asked yourself:
• How do I keep going after life changes forever?
• Is it possible to grieve and still experience joy?
• How do I rebuild after loss, heartbreak, or trauma?
• Will I ever feel like myself again?
• How do I strengthen my mindset when life feels heavy?
• What does resilience really look like in everyday life?
• How can I create a life that feels meaningful and aligned?
• How do I move from surviving… to truly thriving?
Whether you’re in the middle of heartbreak, rebuilding after loss, or simply seeking deeper connection to yourself and your life, this space exists to remind you of something important:
You already have within you the capacity to rise.
You’re also warmly invited to join the free Resilience Mindset Community on Skool—a supportive online space for connection, reflection, and ongoing conversations around healing, growth, and resilience. It’s also where you’ll find access to The GRACE Method: Resilience Mindset Workshop, additional resources, and upcoming offerings.
Join the community here: https://www.skool.com/why-mindset-matters-6748
Trigger Warning:
This podcast may include discussions surrounding grief, suicide, trauma, and loss, as well as occasional strong language. Listener discretion is advised, especially for those who may find these topics distressing.
Why Mindset Matters
Why “It’s Okay to Not Be Okay” Isn’t the Whole Truth
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Episode 15: Why “It’s Okay to Not Be Okay” Isn’t the Whole Truth
In this episode, I dive into the complexities of grief and the widely accepted phrase, “It’s okay to not be okay.” And while I understand the intention behind it, I’m challenging that narrative — because I don’t actually believe we’ve mastered what it truly means. When someone says they’re not okay, the instinct — whether from others or ourselves — is often to fix, to soothe, to make it go away. But if we’re trying to fix it... are we really saying it’s okay?
I share what this looks like in my own life since losing my daughter, and how I’ve learned to hold space for emotional pain without rushing to rescue myself from it. This is an honest conversation about vulnerability, discomfort, and what it means to create a culture where we allow each other — and ourselves — to feel fully.
This episode is an invitation to go deeper. To stop using band-aids for what needs holding. To understand that compassion isn't about fixing — it's about being with. I’ll talk about the power of witnessing pain, the gift of emotional honesty, and why it's time we stopped performing resilience and started practicing it — even when it’s messy. Because life is messy... but it's within the mess that we find the beauty.
I discuss the distinction between supporting and saving, and why self-compassion and authentic connection are more important than mere platitudes. If you’ve ever felt pressure to hide your hurt or minimise your mess, if you’ve ever felt unseen in your struggles or struggled to support someone else in theirs, this episode is for you.
