Why Mindset Matters
About the Host
Eslana Lower is an author, speaker, resilience mindset coach, nurse, midwife, and mother of four. Through her own lived experience of profound grief, trauma, and healing following the loss of her daughter, Rylee, Eslana has developed a powerful voice and framework for helping others navigate life’s most difficult seasons with greater resilience, intention, and hope.
She is the creator of The GRACE Method and author of Resilience After Great Loss: Learning to Live and Grieve Simultaneously—work rooted in the belief that while grief may change us, it does not have to define us.
About the Podcast
Why Mindset Matters is a podcast for anyone navigating grief, loss, trauma, life transitions, or simply seeking to live with greater awareness, purpose, and emotional resilience.
Across two powerful seasons, Eslana has shared raw reflections, honest conversations, practical tools, and mindset shifts designed to help listeners reclaim their story, strengthen their inner world, and learn how to live and grieve simultaneously.
This podcast explores the intersection of resilience, gratitude, intentional living, healing, personal growth, and emotional wellbeing—offering compassionate guidance for those ready to stop simply surviving and start consciously participating in their own healing and transformation.
This podcast is for you if you’ve ever asked yourself:
• How do I keep going after life changes forever?
• Is it possible to grieve and still experience joy?
• How do I rebuild after loss, heartbreak, or trauma?
• Will I ever feel like myself again?
• How do I strengthen my mindset when life feels heavy?
• What does resilience really look like in everyday life?
• How can I create a life that feels meaningful and aligned?
• How do I move from surviving… to truly thriving?
Whether you’re in the middle of heartbreak, rebuilding after loss, or simply seeking deeper connection to yourself and your life, this space exists to remind you of something important:
You already have within you the capacity to rise.
You’re also warmly invited to join the free Resilience Mindset Community on Skool—a supportive online space for connection, reflection, and ongoing conversations around healing, growth, and resilience. It’s also where you’ll find access to The GRACE Method: Resilience Mindset Workshop, additional resources, and upcoming offerings.
Join the community here: https://www.skool.com/why-mindset-matters-6748
Trigger Warning:
This podcast may include discussions surrounding grief, suicide, trauma, and loss, as well as occasional strong language. Listener discretion is advised, especially for those who may find these topics distressing.
Why Mindset Matters
Self-Sabotage, Safety & Saying Yes to Life
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Season 3 Episode 1 : Self-Sabotage, Safety & Saying Yes to Life
In the very first episode of Season Three of Why Mindset Matters, I open up about something I’ve realised I’ve done for most of my adult life — pulling back from the very things I say that I want.
Recording from beautiful Tasmania, I share the story of almost cancelling this trip and the pattern of self-sabotage, fear, and nervous system protection that showed up in the lead-up. What I’ve come to understand is that sometimes it’s not that something is wrong or out of alignment — it’s that our nervous system mistakes the unfamiliar for unsafe.
After years of living in fight-or-flight through childhood trauma, grief, loss, and survival mode, I now have the awareness to recognise when fear is trying to disguise itself as logic. This episode is about what happens when we stop letting old wounds dictate our future and start choosing expansion, joy, connection, and life anyway.
I talk about solo travel, healing through therapy and neurofeedback, learning to embody resilience instead of just teaching it, and the importance of questioning the narratives we adopt about safety, love, happiness, and what we believe we deserve.
If you’ve ever found yourself sabotaging opportunities, doubting yourself right before something beautiful, or talking yourself out of the very life you desire, this episode is for you.
Because sometimes the only thing standing between us and the life we want… is the story we tell ourselves right before we step into it.
